"Have Fun, Be Happy, Take Care" This incredible phrase was spoken to me by a client whilst counselling overnight. What an incredible saying and so powerful. Just like the ancient Hawaiian practise of forgiveness ho'oponopono, meaning ho'o (to make) and pono (right), with it's repetition meaning to make right to both self and others. To say "I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you" helps all of us let go of body held resentment.
Why not try saying it every morning and every night for two weeks and let us know how you feel. Say it to those we love, to those we have hurt, to ourselves, gently and with care. Remember to share the above mantra too "have fun, be happy, take care" with everyone.
Let's start changing the emotional intelligence of the world. We need each to take responsibility for our footprint, to positively change and move into directions of love and respect for each other. Not just living with the capitalistic ideal that money is our God. It is merely a tool and an empty one at that, if that is all there is.
Let's become conscious of who we are and who we wish to become.
Busy, busy, busy. How to find calm in the eye of the storm, one of the ABC's of Emotional Intelligence
Like most people, regardless of status of function, there are times when business demands can become quite overwhelming and the time to reflect and challenge what's going on around us is not available. Or so we think?
This week, in particular, has presented itself as quite the challenge, where work has been literally thrown at me from all parts of my work life, don't get me wrong, I love to be busy and challenged, but not so much that I loose sight of being able to think and reflect, on what it is I should really be focusing on.
Time to think and reflect are precious moments we all deserve to reserve for ourselves, whether we are in business for ourselves or working for others. It's a precious moment that allows us the permission to connect with our true value and pursuits. Don't get me wrong, I am certainly not perfect, but acutely aware of there are times when true reflections not possible.
Self awareness is one of the most important and key atributes of Emotional Intelligence that everyone can tap into. But it is also about being conscious, or living in a conscious way. It's about recognising your goals, and keeping them in sight, regardless of the goals and agendas of others who control the purse strings.
Would be interested in hearing peoples comments. Wishing you a good week and much success.
Let's talk about reactions and the challenges others present. How about a person you intensely dislike as they haven't quite treated you kindly in the past and now that they seem to have forgotten the pain they caused, they just go about their way, creating wreckage for others. Or what about letting your baby child stay overnight for the first time at their friend’s house and dealing the intense anxiety that comes up surrounding this? The amygdala at the base of the brain, is the part that flips its lid so to speak, creating the impulsive anxious reactions in a split second. Separating emotion from rationale.
Control however, can be regained but I believe it is a trained response and one that often needs the most assistance. This belongs to the prefrontal areas, neurologists suspect, the making sense part, which can be pulled into reality, by the breath and by being conscious in the moment and really seeing and noticing what is going on. But we often forget to breath, when it's so important.
When intense emotion is triggered, these prefrontal lobes perform the risk/benefit ratio of the brain, when to attack or run....the fear/fight/flight response and how we manage this.
Again, completely natural response and nothing to be ashamed of, however, breathing through and recognising the trigger and deciding to deal with it later is often a great Emotionally Intelligent strategy.
I use journaling techniques, others may draw, some might write songs, or plan the next response. Whatever it is for you. Don't forget, there are wades of research into these very keen responses and how we manage them. Emotional Intelligence and those that use it with mastery are great inspirational leaders to watch, such as like Michelle Obama