So many times, our resources been pressed so hard that the temptation to "flip" one's lid becomes very attractive. That emotional release, whether intense anger or europhic happinness. But it's not good in the business sense to become "crazy" or "very angry". This creates misunderstandings and the ways in which you and your action are viewed can become miscontrued. Worst still, damage to your own personal work relationship and reputation, along with other relationships can be irritrevably damaged.
We've all been there and I'm sure all had this happen. You might wonder how this sensation can occur and from where. Well, we each have an amygdala at the base of our brains, the almond shaped cluster of structures near the bottom of our brain. There is actually two, one each side of our brain and this particular part of the brain closely relates us to primate and emotional regulation. Our passion and our fears sit here.
Very strong emotions, whilst we all have the ability to "flip our lids" at various moments in life, it's important to also be aware of what's happenning at the time and to keep these very kaleidescopic emotions in check. One way, is to rememeber to breath, taking air in slowly to a count of five and releasing it slowly to a count of five, over and over until the emotion subsides. Easier said then done I hear you say? Yes, you are indeed correct, it's always easier saying or writing it. But it's important to consider the very strategies that work for you to maintain emotional regulation.
Those that can do this and deliver a very balanced response to the stimulus that's creating conditions seem to do it with ease. Rest assured, it is something you can learn. Go well, and try not to "flip your lid" too often.
Ever thought about the consequences of allowing your constant negative self talk chatter to continue. You know the voices in your head stating you can't do this, you are hopeless, or don't even try, or they are gonna know I am a fake very soon and sack me. Well, not only does it start to erode any of your self confidence but if in later life, if you end up with dementia, this constant battle with negative self talk continues with the volume is turned up, . As it may be difficult to recognise but the chatter within goes outward. With your constant talking aloud all the comments you berate yourself with. This may not bother you, as you have lived with this self determined robber of your very own lifeforce for some time. You might think it's normal and that everyone experiences it. But as we get older it may manifest in other ways. Not just as I witness with an elderly dementia sufferor who constantly berated themselves as useless whilst attempting a simple take. Negative self talk can erode families, intimate relationships, the closeness of relationships with our children and other associated relationships. Negative self talk is one of the most destructive forces known to us, yet it's talked about lightly and dismissively as no-one likes to admit they may suffer from it. There are many ways to overcome this robber of confidence. Having walked my own journey to a quiet mind and elimination of significant negative chatter, I may be able to help you too. But park this thought if at the moment you feel there are more important battles to be won. Are there?
Put simply, Emotional Intelligence is the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships with balance and empathy. It's often noted that "emotional intelligence is the key to both personal and professional success". But is that really the case and really what it is? And how are these measures of success formulated? It seems a lot of pressure to conform to a perfection that even Nietzsche stated doesn't exist as far back as the late 1880's. So why then, is it that we have people striving for perfection and killing themselves to do this (not in the literal sense, but the pressure sense). And why is it, that people believe making loads of money is the success level we should all achieve? And if we don't, we are simply failures?
Recently, someone who shows great Emotional Intelligence markers is New Zealand's Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern As Ms Ardern has currently shown the world stage, Leadership and ability to navigate a path filled with trepidation and emotion. This extraordinary woman has shown what real Leadership, Emotions and Relationship development along with the importance of Empathy and compacity are, especially when thrown in at the deep end, as a consequence of the dire pursuits of terrorist and it's aftermath.
Ms Ardern's humility and ability to simply convey the very decency of human emotions and care, whilst governing, will be in written up in the history books and student records for many years to come. Which makes me ask, what do you think you would be known for? What drives you? How do you think you will be thought of, by others, colleagues, friends and lovers? Does it matter? I leave this over to you and look forward to reading your comments. Go gently.