Ever thought about the consequences of allowing your constant negative self talk chatter to continue. You know the voices in your head stating you can't do this, you are hopeless, or don't even try, or they are gonna know I am a fake very soon and sack me. Well, not only does it start to erode any of your self confidence but if in later life, if you end up with dementia, this constant battle with negative self talk continues with the volume is turned up, . As it may be difficult to recognise but the chatter within goes outward. With your constant talking aloud all the comments you berate yourself with. This may not bother you, as you have lived with this self determined robber of your very own lifeforce for some time. You might think it's normal and that everyone experiences it. But as we get older it may manifest in other ways. Not just as I witness with an elderly dementia sufferor who constantly berated themselves as useless whilst attempting a simple take. Negative self talk can erode families, intimate relationships, the closeness of relationships with our children and other associated relationships. Negative self talk is one of the most destructive forces known to us, yet it's talked about lightly and dismissively as no-one likes to admit they may suffer from it. There are many ways to overcome this robber of confidence. Having walked my own journey to a quiet mind and elimination of significant negative chatter, I may be able to help you too. But park this thought if at the moment you feel there are more important battles to be won. Are there?
Put simply, Emotional Intelligence is the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships with balance and empathy. It's often noted that "emotional intelligence is the key to both personal and professional success". But is that really the case and really what it is? And how are these measures of success formulated? It seems a lot of pressure to conform to a perfection that even Nietzsche stated doesn't exist as far back as the late 1880's. So why then, is it that we have people striving for perfection and killing themselves to do this (not in the literal sense, but the pressure sense). And why is it, that people believe making loads of money is the success level we should all achieve? And if we don't, we are simply failures?
Recently, someone who shows great Emotional Intelligence markers is New Zealand's Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern As Ms Ardern has currently shown the world stage, Leadership and ability to navigate a path filled with trepidation and emotion. This extraordinary woman has shown what real Leadership, Emotions and Relationship development along with the importance of Empathy and compacity are, especially when thrown in at the deep end, as a consequence of the dire pursuits of terrorist and it's aftermath.
Ms Ardern's humility and ability to simply convey the very decency of human emotions and care, whilst governing, will be in written up in the history books and student records for many years to come. Which makes me ask, what do you think you would be known for? What drives you? How do you think you will be thought of, by others, colleagues, friends and lovers? Does it matter? I leave this over to you and look forward to reading your comments. Go gently.
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